Letting Life Happen
"You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them."
~Maya Angelou, American Author and Poet
I had the most unusual set of events happen to me tonight. First, I needed to be home by a certain time so that I could do a Facebook Live session. Of course, things came up on my day job that prevented me from leaving on time (mostly my persistence to get things done before I left for the day).
So, leaving work later than I intended, I focused on driving home following the most efficient route that I could find (thanks, Wave). According to my navigation, I should arrive 10 minutes before my session goes live. Great, That should be enough time to let the dog out, grab a glass of water, and get everything setup.
At five minutes until launch time, I sat down at the keyboard to my computer ready to launch. I queued up the music and starting tapping on my keyboard. Of course, it took FOREVER for my computer to wake up. Great. Back up plan - let me launch from my iPad to let everyone know I am running a bit behind schedule.
A few clicks and I was on the page. Error message. "Cannot connect. Check your internet connection." What?
I double-checked my connection. Oh, I had wi-fi turned off. Maybe that's it. Let me try again. Same error message. Now, I am confused.
By this time, my computer had loaded so I switched my focus to logging on from my PC. I tried to load Facebook. White screen. What? Maybe it is my internet connection after all.
I rush to my router and reboot it. I grab my phone. I should be able to log onto Facebook from my phone and let people know I am having technical difficulties. Guess what? Same problems. White screen. Then when it did load, an error message popped up saying "no connection" when I tried to go live on my personal page. OK, let me try just sending a post. Error message!!!??? You have got to be kidding.
I won't bore you with the details, but this went on for another 15 minutes as I desperately went from device to device trying to connect or send a message. No luck. I called Hubby to let him know what was going on. "What if Facebook is down?" Leave it to him to ask the obvious question.
So, I searched Google and look what I found:
A+, Rebecca, for persistence.
Now, I should tell you why I am supposed to be super frustrated at this point. This Facebook Live is routine one that is supposed to be done every week at the same time. I could not do it last week because I was in conference - so I did a repost from a previous FB Live with a promise that we were coming back this week (and I take my commitments seriously). I have been thinking about the topic for the last two days and spent time preparing for it today. I rehearsed what I needed to cover in my head on the drive home. I was ready and looking forward to dig into the topic and share my insights.
To say that I was disappointed would be an understatement. If you could rewind me to twenty years ago, right now I would be so mad and upset about it. I would most likely have been on a rant about Facebook. I would have taken to the internet to complain wherever I could find a way to post my frustration. Anyone who would call me would have to be patient because they would get an earful about my frustration. My repeated refrain would have been "It's not FAIR. THEY need to get their act together. This is not RIGHT!"
Does any of that sound familiar - like thoughts you might be thinking?
Well, I can honestly say that I am not frustrated. I little miffed that it didn't worked out, but I am already shifting - I decided to write you a note (smile).
What I want to tell you - what I need to tell you - is this: life happens. Things don't always go like we expect them to go. Things don't always work out like we planned them. What I want you to know is this:
Life is FAIR.
All is WELL.
Everything will be ALRIGHT.
That may be a hard pill to swallow, depending on what life hit you with. I know. I have had worse things happen. A lot worse.
But what I have learned in my time living is this: no matter what happens, life goes on. And in the words of Iyanla Vanzant, "the Universe unfolds as it should."
Note: not as we want it to unfold. But as it should unfold. And we can have peace when we understand this basic concept.
Does this mean that you won't feel the emotional swing? Absolutely not. But don't let it dip too low. Or too long.
Here is a mantra I repeat: "All is well. And all shall be well. And all manner of things shall be well."
It is not an original. A similar quote was attributed to Julian of Norwich:
“All shall be well, and all shall be well and all manner of thing shall be well.”
― Julian of Norwich
I have found that when I intentionally choose to believe that "all shall be well," I feel it to. It gives me peace when I am sad. And when I am angry. And when I am upset.
What has you out feeling out of sorts? Let life happen. Will you declare it with me? "All shall be well!"
I am cheering for you!