How to Choose the Right Priorities
So what throws people onto the path of consistently choosing the wrong priorities over time? And how do you escape the trap of the self-defeating behavior to choose good over best? The first step to freedom is getting clarity on your value system. Like our friend Gardner in the movie the Pursuit of Happyness, most of us don't realize that we have our priorities set wrong until it is too late. It is so easy to get caught up in the rat race of life. We forget to stop and think about what really matters. Stop right now and think about the five most important things to you. Now ask yourself, "Why are these things important to me? What will I have if I gave up everything to pursue these five things? If you had all of those things, would you say "I have lived a full life. I have nothing left to pursue."? If you can't say that, then you have a mismatch between your values and your priorities. And getting clarity on what is important to you helps you set the right priorities. Once you are clear on your priorities, you must protect them. Our culture hits us with a barrage of messages that tell us in various ways that we are inadequate or missing out on something. Then they conveniently sell us the solution to our problems. If we are not careful, we can let our friends, family, and the media influence us into giving up on what we truly value. Protecting our priorities also involves learning how to stand alone. I call it "loving Your Unique and living Your Unique." In a culture that worships "what the majority thinks," it is easy to get wrapped up in following the crowd. But by doing so, we stray away from the life that we want. We trade it in for a life that gets us admiration and praise from others which leads us into a life that feels empty and meaningless. Learning to follow your own path and live life on your own terms is essential to keeping the right priorities - and the right perspective. And speaking of perspective, having the wrong one will cause you to pursue good at the expense of best. It leads us to achieve a measure of success while having this nagging feeling that there is something "more." Our confusion stems from a failure to tap into the deepest part of our spirit to discover what is really important. When you are living inside of your true purpose and passion, your life lines up with your beliefs and values. And there is nothing more fulfilling than living in that space. I call it "flowing in a state of love, peace, and joy."
How do you order your priorities on a daily basis?
Get clear on your values.
Get clarity on your values.
Get clear on your direction.
Align your daily priorities with your values and direction.
If you want to live a life of fulfillment with no regrets, you will have to follow a process of getting clear on what you want, why you want it, and the fire it will light in your soul once you have it. It sounds really simple, but this life-changing process is not easy. I have coached many people through the process of getting clear on their values, vision, and mission. What I have found is that most people are driving their lives unconsciously. Simply put, most people don't understand why they do what they do and why they are pursuing certain things in life. Continued