Be the Light You Want to See
In this world where negativity reigns supreme and people are addicted to drama, it is incredibly difficult to maintain positive focus and live in a flow of love, peace, and joy.
What I know now that I didn't know 20 years ago is this: what I think about and focus on, I will attract.
I spent years looking at the wrong side of the equation. And it wrecked my attitude, morale, and outlook.
"Everything I fear and dread comes true. I have no peace, no rest,and my troubles never end." ~Job 3:25-26, Good News Translation
Don't get me wrong. There is a lot wrong with the world. You would have to be blind not to see that.
But seeing what is wrong with the world and DWELLING on what is wrong with the world are two very different things.
What happens when you dwell on the wrong things?
When you choose to dwell on the wrong things, it stirs up negative emotions in your mind and body. Is it any wonder you feel terrible?
It goes something like this: I look at a situation and think negative thoughts; my internal response is anger, fear, sadness, or frustration; my body goes into fight/flight response mode; I begin thinking more negative thoughts; repeat.
The mind is powerful. And it will respond to whatever you choose to focus on. Focusing on negative people and situations and wanting to feel good is like rolling in the dirt and trying to get clean.
What's the difference between an optimist (positive-thinker) and a pessimist (negative-thinker)? An optimist sees the glass half full while a pessimist sees the glass as half empty.
Now, if you want a full glass, there is nothing wrong with observing the half-empty part of it. You have to acknowledge a problem before you can solve it. But choosing to focus on the half-empty part and ignore the half-full part skews your view and ability to solve the very problem that you see.
Shift your perspective
So what do you do? You have to shift your perspective to see what you are missing. You have to focus on the big picture and see what is RIGHT just as clearly as you see what is WRONG.
Learning how to shift your perspective is a skill. And the only way to cultivate any skill is through practice.
I recommend to you that you embark on a 30-day challenge of being a good finder. What is good finding? It is learning to look at ANY situation and find the good in it.
I will give you a personal example of how I started out on this practice. One day, I intentioned that I was going to be more positive in my outlook. I was tired of all of the negative emotions overtaking me and causing me to feel miserable.
The very day that I made this decisions, I walked out of my house to go to work and behold: I had a flat tire! Geez, I don't have time for this! I am already running late and I have a meeting this morning! Good grief!
In the middle of going down that negative rabbit hole, I stopped myself. I looked at my flat tire and said this, "This can be fixed. All is well."
Immediately, solutions began to flow into my mind. I kicked into action. "I have roadside service. Let me call. But let me call my boss first and let her know I will be late. All is well."
My boss was most gracious. "Take your time and get here when you can." I said to myself "I am thankful that I have the resources to get this fixed and the help with my meeting today." Within 30 minutes, my tire was fixed and I was rolling towards my destination. The meeting had gone well and my presence wasn't critical.
All was well.
I marvelled at the sense of calm that washed over me.
Could you be stuck because of what you are thinking?
Focusing on the problem can keep you stuck. I wonder now if the solutions to my tire situation would have flowed as easily if I had chosen to become frustrated and upset.
I can tell you this: my day certainly would have been much worse. All of my negative emotions from one event would have washed into the rest of my day. And made me miserable.
Or I could choose to focus on the fact that my tire was just a temporary and very fixable situation. And spring into action. Then let my positive emotions win my day.
You get to decide
The key here is that you get to decide what you choose to think and believe. This is not an "automatic" although it may feel that way to you. Taking a 30-day challenge to choose a positive focus for EVERYTHING will prove to you that this is so.
Aren't you tired of feeling crappy and miserable?
It's time for a change.
Four positive emotions to cultivate
During your 30-day challenge, choose to focus your mind on these four positive emotions:
Faith. Will you choose to believe that everything will work out as it should?
Hope. Will you choose to believe that better is coming?
Love. Will you choose to believe that love is ALWAYS the answer?
Enthusiasm. Will you choose a positive outlook and attitude in the face of adversity?
If you can consistently cultivate the practice of these four emotions, I 100% guarantee that your outlook will change.
And so will your life.
I am here cheering for you!