There is Nothing Wrong with You
There are so many books out there that have the narrative: the world is terrible, something is wrong with you, I have all of the answers.
I am writing to tell you the exact opposite: the world is a beautiful place, nothing is wrong with you, I don't have all of the answers.
I spent so many years of my life thinking and believing that I had to work hard to get "there." And where was "there"? I also had the false belief that someone else had all of the answers. I found out that no one person has the complete view. And I learned that we are all on a journey learning and growing.
Before the light bulb came on for me, I lived my life feeling like I was always "running behind." What's wrong with me? Why can't I keep up?
The things that fueled my fear:
Believing there was a "right" answer
Fear of failing or looking "stupid"
These negative and self-limiting beliefs were barriers to me doing the things that really mattered. They kept me from owning my life and stepping into full responsibility of choosing, deciding, and making bold moves.
What if I failed?
How would I look?
What would they say?
On second thought...
Can I tell you something? In a world gone wild with criticizing and blaming others for their own problems, you don't have to listen.
There is nothing wrong with you. And there is everything write about you.
My wise mother put it this way, "Baby, sometimes you gotta stop caring!"
You have to stop caring about other people's opinions. Who made them "right" anyway?
I am here to tell you:
You are a jewel.
You are gift.
You are the answer to somebody's prayer.
Yes, this means you with all of your faults, failures, and shortcomings.
You are enough.
Tell those other folks to go kick rocks.
There is nothing wrong with you.
What do you need to do to prop up your waning confidence?
Affirm all that you are. And forget about all that you are not.
If someone tries to point out where you don't "measure up," smile and say this: "Well, everyone has an opinion."
And don't let their opinion of you define you.
I refuse to take advice about who I am from someone who barely knows who THEY are.
If you have enough time to keep track of me, you don't have much of a life.
Supercharge your confidence with these practices:
Do a monthly review of your strengths. Take 30 minutes to sit down in a quiet space and write down what you are really good at doing.
Learn something new. Find something you have always wanted to learn and sign up for a class. There are so many free and low cost sources of education online. Check out YouTube. Browse the apps store.
Pat yourself on the back. When you do something that you are proud about, don't be shy. Give yourself a pat on the back. Tell yourself "Way to go! You did it!" Don't wait on others to acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments. Do that for yourself.
Start a "feel good" file. Did someone slip you a note or send you an email that made you feel amazing? Keep it. Did you get a card from your boo that warmed your heart? Keep it. Put this and other feel good items in a file or nice box. When you are feeling "down on yourself" pull out the file and start reading.
Create a vision board. Vision boards have the power to motivate and inspire you. Place your vision board in a place where you can see it. Not sure how to create one that will keep you focused and energized? Check out my class Manifesting Your Destiny Using Dream Boards.
Create your own mantra. Circumvent that negative voice in your head by replacing it with positive and affirming phrases. I learned this strategy to run a marathon. Say them out loud to yourself when you hear the negativity gremlins rumbling: "I am a winner." "I am more than a conqueror." "I is kind. I is smart. I is important." "I am running my own race!"
There is nothing wrong with me. There is everything right about me. This is what I choose to believe. And this belief feeds and nourishes all that I am.
Join me on this journey. I am cheering for you!