I Choose Joy
There is nothing more contagious than enthusiasm.
People who possess enthusiasm change the atmosphere that they enter.
intense and eager enjoyment, interest, or approval.
Zig Ziglar used to tell the story of a woman who attended one of his motivational seminars. The story goes that she had attended one of Zig's seminars the previous year and came back a second time, sat on the front row, and soaked in all that Zig had to say. According to Zig, she met with him after the seminar and was excited to let him know her story.
"I was working a job that I hated. I hated the people that I worked with. I was absolutely miserable. I dreaded going to work every day. Then I attended your seminar last year and everything changed for me. Now, I love my job and the people that I work with. My colleagues and boss are wonderful. And I have been able to get a promotion within the last year. Everything turned around for me after I started thinking more positive."
"That's great," Zig said. "So your new job is going great?"
"New job?" she said. "I don't have a new job. I have the same job. And I am working for the same boss and with the same group of people. But my attitude and perspective changed after your seminar. And that changed everything."
"What one thing could you do that could change EVERYTHING?" ~Dr. Cindy Trimm
This story wonderfully illustrates the importance of attitude and perspective. When we are miserable, it is because we have bought into a negative narrative that keeps us saying things that make us miserable.
The key to getting unstuck is this: choose joy.
a feeling of great pleasure and happiness.
To get a clearer picture of what I mean, check out these word synonyms:
delight, great pleasure, joyfulness, jubilation, triumph, exultation, rejoicing, happiness, gladness, glee, exhilaration, exuberance, elation, euphoria, bliss, ecstasy, rapture
You may not be able to control of all of your current circumstances. But one thing you do have absolute control over is your attitude. And shifting your attitude to embrace joy is the key to getting out of your miserable situation - emotionally and mentally.
When we choose to buy into a "woe is me" narrative, it keeps us stuck in mental patterns of negativity. And that keeps us from seeing the possibilities in our situation. Holding on to negative narratives is like getting on a merry-go-round and expecting to end up in a different place.
We find ourselves being fatalistic. How do you know you are being a fatalistic?
You live life according to what you see and accept the narrative that you have no power to change your current circumstance.
You avoid taking risks and stepping into the unknown or starting new ventures.
You base your future on what you see now instead of future possibilities.
Embracing joy allows you to shift that narrative into one that empowers you. So, how do you make the shift?
It comes by establishing some habits that will keep you in the positive zone. Here is where I recommend you get started:
Be grateful. When you choose to be grateful for the things that you have, your mind starts shifting to notice your blessings instead of rehearsing your "curses." You slowly begin shifting your mind to see the positive parts of your current circumstance. I recommend that you start a grateful list. Practice writing down three things you are grateful for each morning and three things you are grateful for each night. Notice how your perspective begins to change.
Try something new. The only way to get off the merry-go-round is to STEP OFF. You do this by changing the approach to your situation. What small adjustments can you make in your routines to get you unstuck? Is there a new routine that will help you? Learning something new and practicing it is a great way to change your perspective. When we learn new things, it rewires our brain to see the world differently. Go learn something new.
Imagine the impossibilities. What would you say would be a "miracle" happening in your current situation. For example, "My mean boss that has been here for 25 years will suddenly leave." Does that seem like an impossibility? Choose to believe that it is possible and imagine what it would be like if it actually happened. What would you do differently with the new boss? Use your imagination to fuel different strategies for handling your current situation.
Being miserable is a choice. So is choosing joy. The choice is yours. I chose joy years ago and never looked back. Do I still have challenges and negative things that show up? Sure. But instead of buying into a fatalistic, "woe-is-me" narrative, I choose joy.
I choose to believe that everything eventually works itself out. Because you know what? It always does.
A life full of love, peace, and joy is within your reach. Choose to pursue it.
And I will be right here cheering for you!