5 Steps to Boosting Your Self Confidence
One of the side effects of being Unique is the feeling that you never "measure up" to what is considered "normal." (By the way, normal is OVERRATED!)
This can lead you to doubt yourself in all kinds of ways. Being confident or sure of yourself unlocks the power of your mind. It unleashes your creativity and motivates you to action.
For years, I validated the voice of my inner critic with negative external feedback. I would ignore or downplay positive feedback. My mind would gravitate to the negative and I would turn it over and over in my mind.
In essence, I thought that I was "the problem." Something was "wrong" with me and I needed to "fix it."
This kind of thinking kills your self confidence. Self confidence is the belief that you are ENOUGH. And that your kind of Unique is valuable and of value to the world you live in.
How do you go about boosting your self confidence and the belief in your own abilities?
Check out these five strategies on ways to boost your self confidence:
Believe in your own ability to succeed. Boosting your self confidence requires you to believe in yourself and your own ability to create and succeed. This requires you to understand your Unique capabilities, skills, and talent. When you understand Your Unique, you are able to be confident in your SELF - the person you truly are. And you STOP trying to be something that you are not. You kill the voice of your inner critic with FACTS and override the negative feedback that tells you what you are NOT. Don't worry about what you are NOT. Believe in who you ARE.
Create positive mental images of SELF. No one is perfect. We all know that but we often act like we don't believe it. So we focus on our imperfections instead of our strengths. Once you understand Your Unique, you must then see yourself using that Unique to manifest what you want to see. You visualize yourself in a place of power using Your Unique to contribute to the world around you. Visualization is the activity of seeing in your mind what you want to happen. A consistent practice of visualization will help you feel your way into self confidence.
Demand greatness from yourself. Setting the bar low can become a nasty habit. We don't believe in our own ability so we set small, insignificant goals. Or worse, we don't set goals at all. This gives us the permission to stay small and we fail to develop the capacity to grow past where we are. When you demand greatness from yourself, you motivate yourself to action and push yourself to stretch beyond your current capacity. The habit of stretching yourself by doing challenging tasks will expand your self confidence. Even if you fail, you can say "I did it and here is what I learned." Staying on a continual learning path and gaining experience will validate your strength to survive. And your belief in surviving challenges will help you be courageous in taking on more challenges.
Write a personal vision statement. Seeing your life as you want it to be can be a powerful pull for you to act in ways that will create what you see in your mind. A personal vision statement is a tool that will help you do just that. In your personal vision statement, you paint a definite picture of what you want your future to look like. Reading this statement frequently will help your mind focus on what you desire. And a focused mind will help you create what you see in your vision. This is powerful and when practiced will absolutely surprise you in the way it works.
Believe in and serve others. People who are self-critical or also extremely critical of people around them. If you find someone who is constantly criticizing others (you may be that person), you will find someone who finds the negative in everyone around them. When you choose to believe in and celebrate other people in their Unique, you will find that it creates in you a positive mindset that attracts the same to you. This begins a positive feedback loop - you appreciate others and they appreciate you. Receiving this positive energy will motivate you to look for ways to help people. Helping and serving others is one of the quickest ways to boost your self confidence. Your Unique is meant to be shared with the world around you. And when you make a consistent practice of believing in and serving others, you will reap the same from the world around you. Others will believe in and serve you because you have done the same for others.
These five strategies are not easy to implement all at once. I recommend starting one practice per month. In five months, you will be well on your way to developing the habits that will forever silence the voice of your inner critic.
And silencing the voice of your inner critic will forever change the way you see yourself and the world around you.
Reference: Hill, Napoleon. Think and Grow Rich. New York: Ballantine, 1983. Print.