Change is My Friend
How do you feel when you believe that you are powerless to change something in your life?
Dr. Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
Have you ever wanted something and were unable to get it?
Yes, me too. There are times in my life where I set out to achieve a goal and fell short.
There are so many reasons this can happen. Here is a hard truth:
You can do EVERYTHING right and it can still turn out WRONG.
Although many people talk about promises, there are very few promises and guarantees in life.
Getting a degree doesn't mean you are guaranteed a job. Doing well on a job does not guarantee a promotion. Getting a promotion does not guarantee respect from the people you lead.
Getting into a love relationship doesn't guarantee the other person will love you back, love you like you want to be loved, or do what you want them to do.
Adapting a healthy lifestyle does not guarantee you won't get sick.
Being popular doesn't guarantee you will have lots of friends.
And having money does not guarantee happiness.
One thing that is guaranteed is this: TIME will march on. With or without you.
These are hard truths only if we accept what in math is called corollary.
a proposition that follows from (and is often appended to) one already proved.
The corollary to the truth that life has not guarantees is this: there is ALWAYS a chance that things you will get what you want.
Even though getting a degree doesn't guarantee a job, it is possible to get a job.
Even though doing well on your job doesn't guarantee a promotion, it is possible to get promoted if you do well.
Even though getting a promotion doesn't guarantee automatic respect, it is possible to gain the respect of people you lead.
Event though being in a relationship doesn't guarantee true love, it is possible to have it.
Even though adapting an healthy lifestyle doesn't guarantee that you will stay healthy, it doesn't mean you will surely become sick.
Even though being popular doesn't guarantee that you will have a long friends list, it is possible to have friends and be popular.
Even though having lots of money doesn't guarantee happiness, being rich doesn't mean that you will be miserable.
The power of getting what you want without guarantees lies in your ability to effect CHANGE.
make or become different.
Simply put: CHANGE must become your FRIEND.
When change is your friend, you recognize that in any situation you have some level of power.
I love the story of Nelson Mandela. If you are not familiar with it, you can read more about his life here >>> https://www.nelsonmandela.org
The reason that I love his story is because it demonstrates the power of the human will to effect CHANGE against steep opposition.
The truth is that whatever situation you have found yourself in, you have the power to CHANGE it by your decisions and your choices.
You can decide you are a victim and choose to act powerless and helpless.
Or you can decide that you have the power to effect change and choose to do what you can to make a DIFFERENCE.
Another reason that I like Nelson Mandela's story is because it demonstrates another point that needs to be made in our "get it now, get it quick" culture.
Some things take time. And some things take a VERY LONG time.
But the fact that things may take a VERY LONG time does NOT mean that we should give up.
Giving up is the WORST choice that you can make. When you decide "things will NEVER change" or "I will never be able to have _____ (fill in the blank)" you will soon give up trying.
Giving up trying is how you give away your PERSONAL POWER. You tell yourself that there is NOTHING that you can do to effect CHANGE.
Here is another guarantee in life: If you don't try to effect CHANGE, things will NEVER change!
You must become clear that CHANGE, the belief that things won't always be as they are, is your FRIEND.
Just look at nature. Nothing around you EVER stays the same. Things are in a constant state of changing.
This is good news if you are not where you want to be in life right now.
The good news is this: if you don't like where you are now, hang on. Change is coming.
Your assignment is to understand what you CAN do to move that change along.
I can't tell you exactly what that is for your situation. But I can tell you after having survived many bad situations and setbacks that it is absolutely true:
CHANGE IS MY FRIEND!
I encourage you to let the power of CHANGE be your friend today.
And always let whatever you do be steeped in LOVE. This is the power of POSITIVE CHANGE that impacts generations.
I am cheering for you!