Don't Stay Down!
Life is good. Most of the time. Except when it is not. Then it can bring you down. And while you are down, it is easy to just lay there.
It is so easy to quit when things get hard. What do you do when everything seems to be going wrong?
Well, I will tell you ONE thing that you CANNOT do. And that is QUIT.
Quitting is easy. Real easy. And on those days when things are hard, it seems like the most logical option.
The tapes that may play in your head sound something like:
"Why am I doing this?"
"This is too hard."
"What's the point?"
"It probably wasn't meant to be anyway."
"This should not be this hard."
And this is just the beginning of a journey towards the bottom of a real deep pit.
From here, we talk ourselves out of pursuing our dreams and settle for what's left. We take the "sucker's choice."
But when we give up at this point, what we are really saying is "I can't handle this." Is this true?
I tell you firmly "It is NOT true!"
The truth is that you are STRONG enough to handle this. Your are SMART enough. You have what it takes. Even if you don't feel it right now.
So what do you do when these feelings rush in to overwhelm you? Here is a quick way to work through them:
Sit still and breathe. The first thing that goes when things get hard is our ability to breathe deeply and appreciate our life. Getting quiet and breathing helps us become aware of our present.
Get your comfort food! Yes, I said it. But LIMIT yourself to ONE. Ice cream is my fix. So to control it, I go with a cone or at most a pint of my favorite (NEVER a half-gallon; I would eat the whole thing!). Decide that you are going to savor and enjoy this moment with that ONE comfort food.
Give yourself a pep talk. While you are eating the comfort food, do NOT zone out in front of the TV or computer. It is time for a self pep-talk. This is the time that you begin your grateful list. Start with the small things. Can you see? Can you hear? Are you breathing? Think about how much WORSE things could be.
Feel and release all of your emotions. Denial of your emotions is the easiest way to get stuck. By trying to avoid them, you end up making them more intense. Are you angry? Say it. Out loud. Then release it and notice the next feeling that comes up. Repeat the process until you acknowledge all of the emotions you are feeling. Know that feeling the emotions won't kill you. You will feel better after you release them. I highly recommend crying (very cleansing).
Sit still and breathe. Get your comfort food! Give yourself a pep talk. Feel and release all of your emotions. 1, 2, 3, 4 POW!
Now you are ready to receive the truth. The truth is this: You are strong enough to endure this!
Don't ever believe for one second that you can't survive it. Know that you are fully able to handle this and more. Tell yourself that. And say it until you believe it. "I can handle this!"
There are days when I am down. But I never stay there. I get up. I rise from my place of sorrow. And I press on knowing that I AM ENOUGH.
You can do it too. Don't stay down!
And know this:
I am cheering for you!