The Process is the Passion!
Learning to Love Your Unique and Live Your Unique is about following a pathway designed to bring you into a divine place where you can experience creative flow, joy, and peace. This is the pathway to TRUE success that is not defined by other people's standards.
So, how do you get there? In order to get there, you have to become obsessed with the PROCESS of getting there. The process must become your PASSION.
The process for finding Your Unique requires three components:
Without these three in combination, you will fail to reach your desired goal.
Deep introspection begins by asking yourself a question. All great discoveries started with a question in someone's mind. Reaching for Your Unique requires you to deeply question and think about your life.
the examination or observation of one's own mental and emotional processes
If you are stuck in your life, it is because you have failed to ask yourself the right question. A coach or therapist can be very helpful here. Asking the right questions to get you unstuck requires you to shift out of your current paradigms and mindsets into an open space of curiosity.
a strong desire to know or learn something
In this space where your mind is open to receive something new, you can explore the deeper layers of what is limiting you.
Here are some questions that can get you started:
What has brought you to this point in life?
Have you achieved what you wanted?
What things do you no longer want to be a part of your life?
Are there people in your life that are "dead weight"? What do you need to do to unload this dead weight?
Are people in your life toxic or nourishing? Debilitating or empowering?
What in your past is influencing you right now?
What is your philosophy about life?
What are your beliefs?
What are you passionate about?
What things do you feel strongly about?
What are you doing (habits) that are getting in the way of creating the life that you want?
What do you need to prune out of your life?
What has shaped you?
What do you need to let go (pains, hurts, disappointments)?
You may have heard some of these questions before and stopped short of answering them. This is where ACCOUNTABILITY can be helpful. You need someone to guide you and hold you accountable to asking the deeper questions...and ANSWERING them.
Who do you have in your life that can hold your accountable to your journey to Living Your Unique?
I love the cheerleaders in my life. However, the cheerleaders do not challenge me to pursue the difficult road. For that, I need someone who can hold me feet to the fire. You need someone to hold you accountable.
When I think about the great leaps in personal growth that I have made in my life, it came through someone challenging me and holding me accountable. When I think about the places where I have failed to experience breakthrough in my life, I can track it back to being resistant to accountability.
What will do you do to get the accountability that you need to get you going?
Finally, none of this will work if you are not PERSISTENT.
firm or obstinate continuance in a course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition
Yes, learning to Love Your Unique is HARD work. Your commitment is the key to reaching a place in life where you can Live Your Unique.
Persistence is simply developing the habit of "try again." You must accept that you will sometimes FAIL. But just because you FAIL does not mean you are a FAILURE. You must say to yourself "let me try again."
Anyone who has achieved any level of success in their life has developed this habit. They refuse to quit. When others would give up and walk away, they keep going. When others would sit down and quit, they keep going. When they feel they can't go on, they say to themselves "one more step." This is persistence in action: facing a difficult challenging and saying "I will."
There is no one that can do this for you. You must choose to do it for yourself. This PROCESS must become your PASSION.
And that passion will lead you to begin experiencing your most joyful life.
And know this: I am cheering for you!
P.S. If you need an accountability partner, reach out to me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I want to help you learn how to Love Your Unique. The world needs the authentic YOU!