My Life Belongs to Me
Who does your life belong to?
Your life should be a reflection of the authentic you.
Following the crowd will cause you to live a diluted version of yourself. You will give up our best life for an imitation that leaves you unhappy, frustrated, and unfulfilled.
Walking down a path that is very different from those around you is HARD. You constantly feel the pressure to "fit in" and CONFORM.
Let me ask you this question: What makes THEM so right about YOUR life?
I can't tell you the number of people in my life who have "shoulda" on me. "You should do this" and "if I were you I would..."
In the past I would feel a flush rise from my belly and cover my face every time that happened. I now recognize that feeling as SHAME.
There is so much shame in "shoulda"!
This shame was arising from a place deep within me that said "be perfect."
My addiction to PERFECT was strong. I did not understand that perfect is a way to compare yourself with the world around you.
In order to have an idea of perfect, you have to start with a standard. When I look into the magazines at the beautiful models, I see my imperfection as compared to them. They become my idea of perfect.
We do it all of the time. We pick up standards from the world around us then spend most of our time and energy trying to create the perfect life. Perfect children. Perfect marriage. Perfect friends. Perfect job. Perfect house. Perfect car. Perfect social status. Perfect body.
This chasing of perfection causes us to pursue pathways that are not true to our authentic selves. We allow perfection to hijack our lives. We give up authenticity - the permission to be REAL.
“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”
Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
I discovered later in my life that "perfect" is overrated. And I made one of the best decisions that I ever made in my life - I walked away from my love affair with perfection.
I can't describe to you the peace that entered my life after my breakup with perfection. I was no longer striving to BE something else. I started feeling comfortable in my own skin. And I started embracing and loving my imperfect me.
I took my life back.
I decided NOT to let the world around me define my HAPPY.
Today, I am encouraging you to give up on PERFECT. It is so overrated!
Embrace the imperfect YOU.
Make your life your OWN. Refuse to live a cheap version of what somebody else imagined that your life SHOULD be!
My life is not PERFECT. And I am glad about it.
Say this with me today, "my life belongs to me."
And know that I am cheering for you every step of the way.