Life Out of Control
If then you are wise, you will show yourself rather as a reservoir than as a canal. A canal spreads abroad water as it receives it, but a reservoir waits until it is filled before overflowing, and thus without loss ot itself it shares its superabundant water.
Bernard of Clairvaux
The words hit me like a ton of bricks: "Are you too busy?" It was a sermon from my Mother-in-Love on the importance of putting God at the top of your list. I felt convicted.
But my conviction was not just about my faith walk. It was more about how I had allowed my life to get out of control with my upside-down priorities.
Life is a balancing act. And if you have ever watched someone walk across a tightrope, you know how easy it is to lose your balance - and fall.
In the physical world, there is an absolute science to balance. Check out this video that explains the physics behind it all.
Balancing life's priorities is a LOT like this tightrope walk. There is the science of it which is easy to understand. Then there is the doing of it which is exponentially more difficult. Successful tight-rope walking is as much an art as it is a science.
So, it is with life. There are literally 100's of books out there on how to prioritize your life, how to prioritize your day, and how to prioritize your priorities. I believe I have tried at least half of them.
So from the voice of experience I will go ahead and tell you: none of these methodologies will work until you get your center of gravity right (see the video to understand).
cen·ter of grav·i·ty
/sen(t)ər əv ˈɡravədē/
a point from which the weight of a body or system may be considered to act. In uniform gravity it is the same as the center of mass.
The center of gravity is easy to define in the physical realm. It is more difficult to define in the spiritual realm.
Our lives are SO busy that I often wonder if anyone has a center of gravity left anymore. Can you answer this question: "What is the ONE thing that is most important to me?"
Now, if the thing you named was a person, you have to start over. Because your center of gravity cannot be defined on a PERSON. People come and people go. Building your life on a person will cause you to lose your balance if that person leaves.
It also cannot be a THING that you can see with your natural eyes. Everything that you see in this world is subject to destruction. If you don't believe me, then just remember that they still cannot decipher Mayan writings or Egyptian heiroglyphs. Even the great and mighty fall at some point.
Now, ask yourself again: "What is the ONE thing that is most important to me?" (excluding people and things).
Yes, that question is much more difficult to answer. So most of us push the EASY button and just avoid it.
But you will never gain control of your life until you find it. Your life will look like the people in the video trying to walk the tightrope - balance a while, fall, get up and try again.
Your Journey to Unique is a searching of your soul and spirit for the deeper meaning. It is not a superficial journey of "do this, do that, and everything will be OK."
It requires deep introspection and consistent practice.
Your life will continue to be out of control until you find your center of gravity. This is also called discovering your True North.
And if you want to gain control of your life, you will have to find it. There is no other way.
Lean in to discover it and life will reward you with peace, love, and joy.
And know that I will be cheering for you all of the way!
P.S. I am reading the 40 Day Soul Fast by Dr. Cindy Trimm. Today is Day 34 on Prioritizing. Her book is a great tool to help you discover your center of gravity. I am on this journey with you.