The Joy of Unique
Living in joy is a lifestyle.
We don't always get to choose our circumstances. But we can choose our attitude about our circumstances.
My life hasn't been perfect. And I assume yours hasn't been either.
Getting caught up in a negative narrative though can keep you from living in your joy.
I used to be married to my misery. We give people a lot of attention for sharing misery. And we create connections based on the "Yes, me too!"
The problem with staying in this mode is that you run the risk of getting stuck.
And being stuck is a choice.
You don't have to stay there. Joy is a choice.
It starts by shifting your mindset into a place of love.
Walking in love is easier said than done. It requires boldness, courage, and confidence.
You must be bold in declaring "All is well. And all shall be well. And all manner of things shall be well."
Courage to push past your fears.
And confident that God has everything under control.
Being true to yourself is not just a good idea. It is a requirement and a prerequisite to living in joy.
Are you willing to give up your miserable story?
For years I would say "Life is not fair. Look at them!" I told myself that THEY were controlling things and I was suffering as a result.
The truth that I failed to tell myself is this: I had power in this situation. And failing to own my personal power was MAKING me a victim. I was choosing this path. It was NOT being forced upon me.
I have the power to:
Make a different decision
Stand up for myself
Tell them how I really feel
Connect to other people
Doing these things gives me power. I begin happening to life and not letting life happen to me.
I learned in Physics that "a body at rest will stay at rest will remain at rest unless acted upon by outside forces" (the first law of Thermodynamics).
Too many of us are "at rest" in our lives. We are stuck and motionless in a place paralyzed by fear, hurt, and shame. Then life happens to us and sends us into our eMOTIONS. And from there we lose control of our part in making a different choice.
It doesn't have to be this way. You can look into your life and proactively make decisions that will bring you into a better place.
You can stop hanging out with people who make you feel bad about yourself.
You can stop waiting on life to happen and choose to live it.
You can let people know that is is NOT OK to walk all over you.
You can say "Yes" to the things that excite you without feeling guilty.
You can receive wisdom and understanding to do things differently.
In short, you can MAKE your life happen.
Stop sitting around waiting. Joy will only come when you CHOOSE and walk in your own personal power. Only then can you experience an abiding joy that is beyond your circumstance.
Misery loves company. Well, sorry, I' m busy Misery.
Busy living in joy!
Choose love. Choose peace. Choose joy.
And choose YOU. You are awesome.
And I am cheering for you!