Your identity and success go hand in hand. Many people sacrifice their identities by not doing what they really want to do. And that's why they're not successful.
The movie "Bourne Identity" chronicles the experience of a man with amnesia. He is rescued from near death with no memory of who he was. Throughout the movie, he discovers that he has extraordinary talents including combat skills and fluency in several languages. Jason Bourne is a man without a true identity.
Too many people spend their lives leading a "secret" identity. Their secrets are killing them.
You are as sick as your secrets. Until you reveal and examine the negative emotions attached to the secrets, you are held captive by them.
Loving and Living Your Unique is about releasing yourself from negative emotions and secret identities to walk into your true identity.
We are all born with innate gifts, talents, and abilities. Through our childhood upbringing and experiences, those gifts and talents are either cultivated or suppressed.
My mother had a saying, "Children are like little sponges. They soak up everything around them."
Unfortunately, not all parents know this secret. So they allow their children to be exposed to environments that destroy and suppress their true identity.
Getting back to the place of our true identity can be a long and hard battle. Our insecurities and fears of rejection keep us from revealing to the world who we are and who we want to become.
Understanding that you will NEVER be able to live a satisfying and fulfilling life until you break away from these traps is essential to creating the life of your dreams. We must give up on defining ourselves by roles and titles.
Who are you? Can you answer this question without telling me about what you do or who you are in relationship with? If you cannot, then you have failed to uncover your true identity.
Integrity simply means not violating one's own identity.
Too often we allow other people's expectations of who THEY think we should be rule us. We live our lives in fear of "What would they think if they knew _________ about me?" (You fill in the blank).
This is the wrong question to ask yourself. The question is NOT what do THEY think about me. The question is what do I think about me. Your opinion of yourself is THE most important opinion. What others think is simply none of your business.
Many people are afraid to show their true self because of shame - they feel rejected simply because they reject themselves.
Dr. Cindy Trimm
Give yourself a fighting chance to discover who you are and the gifts that lie within you. This journey begins by stopping the shame cycle that entraps you into creating a secret identity for yourself.
Denying our true identity is the worst trap that we can create for ourselves. It keeps us stuck in a life that we don't want and in relationship with people that don't love us for who we are.
This type of life is no life at all.
The search for and need of approval is a powerful intoxicant. But it is also a drug that will leave you bankrupt of your true greatness.
Living in your authenticity is the key to discovering your own potential and greatness. No one on the planet can duplicate that. And when you find it you will realize that approval and acceptance are two very different things indeed.
Dr. Brene Brown has helped me stand firm in this truth. Authenticity is where your life begins.
What are you waiting on? You only have one life.
Start today by choosing to live in your true identity.
I am cheering for you!