The Day That I Gave Up Sarcasm
"Sarcasm is humor for the intelligent." At this point in my mentoring session, I was feeling pretty good about myself. Then she hit me with a left hook, "And sarcasm is veiled hostility. It is like stabbing people with your words." My ego was instantly deflated.
On this 40 Day Soul Fast Journey, we have talked about the power of awareness, the importance of introspection, the search for truth, creating new perspectives, the power of patience, being whole inside of yourself, and the art of balance.
Today, I want to talk to you about the power of PEACE.
freedom from disturbance; quiet and tranquility.
freedom from or the cessation of war or violence.
My mentor had just given me a reality check. Up until that point, I had never looked at my sarcasm as a "problem." For me it was a great coping mechanism. What led the conversation to this reality check was my "whining" over some trouble I was having in relationships. I had always thought of my sarcasm as "just kidding" or "setting people straight." I did not make the connection that my use of sarcasm was the source of some of my relationship woes.
My mentor went on to explain that my sarcasm was also keeping me from speaking in and standing in "my truth." In other words, when I felt threatened by someone's behavior, my default mode was attack rather than speaking my truth with kindness.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story.
Bam! My sarcasm was getting in the way of my authenticity and it was causing disruptions in my relationships with other people. You could have blown me over with a feather.
Peace is both the freedom from disturbance AND the cessation of war or violence. My sarcasm was dripping with violence. And those violent acts caused disturbance in my relationships.
What I know now that I did not know then is that my pursuit of peace was directly tied to my willingness to give up my weapon. My sarcasm weapon had served me well to and got me to this point in my life. But if I was to move on to pursue a BETTER life, I would have to give it up. Someone put it this way, "To go up, you have to give up!"
Today, I want you to take a sincere look at your own disruptions. And instead of blaming other people for your problems, ask yourself "What am I doing to create this?"
And the second lesson is this: understand that your words have power. You have to use them wisely in order to create what you want to see in your life.
Be agreeable, be sympathetic, be loving, be compassionate, be humble. That goes for all of you, no exceptions. No retaliation. No sharp-tongued sarcasm.
Living Your Unique will require you to give up some things. One of my things was sarcasm. I wish that I could say that I am completely cured. The truth is that I am a work in progress. But I am determined to pursue peace and give up my weapon.
What is "your thing"? What is disrupting your peace today? Are you willing to give it up?
Disarm yourself, Beloveds. Lay your weapons down. And begin experiencing peace in your soul and in your mind.
Decide today to do it for you.
I am with you on this journey. You are not alone. I am cheering for you.