Believing Different for Better
improve on or surpass (an existing or previous level or achievement).
In my last post, I talked about "Cleansing Your Spirit" and the importance of unpacking your emotional baggage. Unpacking that emotional baggage can be a cleansing process. It can also be distressing.
I remember the first time that I did this exercise. I cried. I got angry. I was sad. I laughed. I was furious. I felt anxious. At times, I felt a release followed by a deep sense of calm. It was a roller coaster ride to say the least.
Reviewing all of those past hurts triggered some down feelings too. As I reviewed some of the things that I had been through, some patterns started to emerge. I began to see that I was repeating some things in my life - some things that were repeatedly causing me misery.
The saddest part was that I could not see myself making any better choices going forward. I felt condemned to repeating the same mistakes - and experiencing the same miseries.
How did I get out of that miserable trap? I am glad that you asked.
Part of it was learning to connect with something higher than myself. I had to recognize that my small life was...SMALL. Anytime we start with defining our entire life by our own small universe, we lose. Life is so much bigger than my small piece. As a matter of fact, I had to face a hard truth: my life was small because I made it small. I refused to connect to others. I refused to open myself to anything outside of my understanding. And it had left me miserable.
But how do you then start to move forward and navigate out of the deep pit of misery? You have to do this one thing: BELIEVE DIFFERENT FOR BETTER.
The truth that I discovered was that my beliefs were clouding my decisions. Every day, we have a choice. We get up and we have choices. Those choices can set us up for success or failure.
A few years ago, I decided that I needed to do something about my weight. Now, I am NOT trying to put you on a guilt trip, but I want you to understand. I was able to lose 40 pounds in two years. It was slow. And most of my success was built upon modifying my choices.
I first had to believe that it was possible for me to lose the weight. Then, I had to make choices that were consistent with my new belief. And those days when I got on the scale and it reflected gains (a major discouragement interpreted as a setback), I had to believe that the next day or next week would be better. And that gave me the inspiration to continue making the choices that would produce what I wanted to see in my life.
What I want you to know today is that your work towards FREEDOM will not be easy. You will face discouragement. You may even think that you have experienced an emotional setback. But don't live in that spirit of defeat.
In the words of Mark Twain, "I have had a lot of worries in my life. Most of which have never happened."
At those moments when you feel like you are falling apart, say to yourself, "I choose to believe BETTER."
If you believe that things will get better, I give you this guarantee: it shall be as you believe.
Believe that your UNIQUE is AWESOME!